Mother Daughter Therapy

- individual therapy for mothers of young daughters (up to age 25)

Does this sound like you?

  • You can feel your own “stuff” coming up with your daughter. You try to hold it back but you can feel it living through you in moments of stress or exasperation. You want to do your own work while also having someone who understands the mother/daughter dynamic.

  • Your daughter may be showing you through various behaviors that the relationship with you is not as solid as it could be or that she is picking up on something that you know you haven’t processed or healed yet.

  • You may feel like you’re walking on eggshells—trying not to create another fight, while also feeling like you can’t just say anything. Everything you say feels like it turns into conflict, a brush-off, an attitude, an eye-roll.

  • Maybe you’re exhausted from reminding, checking, following up, and trying to make sure your daughter is doing what she needs to do.

  • You’re worried about her motivation. Her follow-through. Her attitude. Her responsibilities.

  • But the more you try to help, the more defensive she seems to become. You’re feeling more and more hurt by the distance, the defensiveness, and the rejection.

  • You might find yourself thinking:

What happened to the sweet girl I used to know? What happened to the relationship we used to have?

Why do I feel nervous to approach her or irritated and frustrated with her all the time?

This is how I help:

  • I support you in changing your side of that dynamic so there can be room for connection and positive communication again.

  • We work to understand what is happening between the two of you and what you have the power to change.

  • We uncover precisely what your daughter is needing most from you in the relationship. I help you understand yourself more deeply and see her more clearly when it comes to what she is expressing through her behavior.

  • You’ll begin to recognize what gets activated in you when your daughter has big feelings, struggles, pushes back, doesn’t follow through, or makes choices you’re afraid will hurt her. We’ll do the inner work required so you can soothe and regulate yourself and separate what belongs to you from what belongs to her.

  • I help you see how you have far more influence over the relational environment than you realize - and that changing your part of the dynamic can create conditions that support connection, maturity, responsibility, and growth.

  • I’m not here to help you become more passive. I’m here to help you become more relationally active - in a way that strengthens the relationship and strengthens your influence in her life. I help you see clearly how you don’t have to sacrifice the relationship with your daughter to raise your daughter well.