Mama Have Mercy
Helping mothers of daughters work through their own mother issues while supporting them in building the relationship they want with their daughter now so she launches into life feeling empowered, resilient, and close to you.
Whenever I acknowledge a mother’s strong relationship with her young daughter, the response is always the same:
“Let’s hope it stays that way.”
It’s hard for mothers to be confident. Many of us have very complicated relationships with our own mother. It can be hard to imagine that we could actually break that cycle.
There is also a culture of fear around the teenage years. It’s hard to trust that our relationship with our daughters can stay in tact through big emotional storms.
We brace ourselves for when she pushes us away and shuts us out - as if it is inevitable.
As if we can’t continue to be her emotional refuge, her safe place, her most sacred confidante.
Mama, it’s time we stop being so afraid.
What ends up happening is we start focusing on all the wrong things and completely missing her.
Our anxiety starts to invade the relationship (and this starts sooner than we realize).
We start over-correcting behavior and missing the growing human underneath.
We support her independence but we grow less confident in pulling her in close.
We keep reacting…but not going back to repairing….until the tension becomes a wall and we see no way back in.
How do I know this?
Because for the last 15+ years as a therapist, I helped daughters heal from the dynamics of their childhoods while also supporting mothers and daughters rebuild their relationship in real time. I saw clearly all the pitfalls that we as mothers fall into without realizing it. The subtle ways we dismiss her, or don’t see her clearly, or steer her away from her truth.
I love my work with mothers and daughters but I was ready to step even more into my own power and have a different kind of impact. I wanted to help mothers in the moment build the relationship they wanted with their daughter- not when things were bad- but from the very beginning.
I decided to take all the knowledge of what those daughters needed and pass it on. Because it’s so easy to fall into the traps that make our daughters feel unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. And it’s so hard to see our own blind spots.
There’s so many amazing experts and books out there but my work is focused on connection and concrete ways to nurture it. I help women get more connected to themselves so they can get even more connected to their daughters.
I also believe mindset is huge. By having the right perspective and the right understanding of what your daughter needs, you can ground yourself in any moment, come back to center, and be intentional about how you show up - making it more effortless than ever because it’s clear. And it’s also about having that coach in your pocket who can shift you in the moment and help you clear the fog that gets in the way.
Because I know you would rather be strengthening her and empowering her - not accidentally tearing her down or getting lost in all your “stuff.” And I’m here to help you do just that.
I am determined to break the generational cycle of mother daughter conflict that pits women against each other.
I am here to help you see your own mother in a new way while also supporting you in the dynamics of that relationship.
I am here to help you build an authentic relationship with your daughter filled with laughter and joy.
And I am here to help us raise empowered women - women who know who the F they are, don’t question themselves, and have strong values and a sense of direction.
Trust me when I say, you can absolutely:
Have a daughter who loves hanging out with you and her family (rather than holing up in her room).
Still be her first call when something amazing (or hard) happens (like she can’t wait to fill you in on all the tea).
Be included in her most important life decisions and her inner life (so you’re not left wondering how she’s doing).
Have the closeness you always wanted through all phases of her life.
And I want to show you how.
MY MINDSET + MENTORSHIP PROGRAM TO HELP YOU GET THE EFF OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND OUT OF YOUR “STUFF” AND INTO DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAUGHTER.
This is full-blown monthly mentorship where you get:
1x Monthly Q&A coaching/mentorship calls: You can ask me anything on these calls i.e., work through a recent conflict with your daughter, unpack what is coming up for you around your daughter, shift your perspective and create a game plan going forward, ask all your worrisome questions about the future.
1x Monthly Community Call: Your voices as a community are centered here. What is coming up with your mother. What is coming up with your daughter. How do other people in the group relate. I want you to feel connected and not alone. I want your experience to be validated and heard. I will also provide themes for us to discuss and we can unpack them together.
Bi-weekly “Touchstone” Telegram Broadcasts: You can tell me anything coming up for you as it relates to parenting (or your own mother) and I’ll respond with an-depth message to help you get out of your head, shift out of fear, worry, or frustration, so you can get back into relationship with your daughter as soon as possible, and have new strategies and perspectives for how to navigate your own mother. I’m here to shift your mindset, shift how you are feeling, challenge you with concrete steps you can take, and help you show up differently in either relationship. You get my coaching and my guidance in your pocket - and not only that - you get to hear me coach other moms - other adult daughters - with similar or different issues in this telegram broadcast and on the live call. You hear all of my in-depth responses to everyone.
Lifetime Access to Future Trainings: You will have free lifetime access to any new trainings or courses I create during your time in Mama Have Mercy.
Community Facebook Group: I want to offer a sense of community where we have a place to share our wins and our struggles. There is something so powerful about having a safe space to share similar struggles you are having and share resources and insights with each other. The energy that comes with being in a community like this is EVERYTHING and really makes all of our efforts so much more intentional. I will also share whatever I am currently diving into - whether it be the adolescent brain, the pressures on girls in our culture today, and how to support our daughters through school. I will be sharing quotes, insights, and resources along with you.