Keep your relationship with your daughter so strong that no challenge ahead could break it.
Does this sound like you?
The last thing you want to do is screw up your relationship with your daughter.
Yet the stress and worry about this has you in your head - all the time.
You don’t want to raise an entitled, selfish, disrespectful child who doesn’t know how to buck up.
But whatever you are currently doing isn’t working either. It feels like it’s tearing you (both) apart.
Your frustration is growing. The tension between you is growing. And so is her attitude.
Let’s be real - you’re overburdened, overwhelmed, and stressed most days.
You have enough on your plate.
You need her to just fall in line. To do what you say. To brush her damn teeth and eat what’s in front of her.
To do what she has to do without complaint.
To not need so much at this point.
Yet she isn’t falling into line.
And she isn’t being quiet about her resistance.
Her attitude and snarkiness is coming through loud and clear.
And she absolutely does still need you……but I want this to feel rewarding and nourishing for you both - not overwhelming.
Something is being asked of you in this moment of your life.
Her attitudes, her outbursts, her disrespect are the invitation.
And yes, mama, you do have the capacity for this. I promise you.
Because I know how much you want this.
A strong and close relationship with your daughter.
I know how important she is to you.
I know you want to:
Be her ally and her confidante.
Believe her when she’s in pain - not feel dismissive inside yourself.
Care about her when she’s struggling - not be irritated that she isn’t just ‘dealing.’
Support her - rather than bring down the iron grip to control her.
But changing the way we are parenting requires that we change ourselves.
To soften toward her, you must begin to soften inside yourself.
To release control, you have to uncoil the sense of control you’ve relied on your whole life.
So yeah, we just have to break the rules of your own emotional survival. No big deal, right?
Shouldn’t be terrifying at all…..
Well, that’s why I’ve created community and support for you.
Mama Have Mercy is a group coaching container designed to support mothers doing the deep emotional work of raising strong daughters — while doing their own personal growth and healing.
This is full blown support where you get:
2x Monthly Q&A coaching/guidance calls: you can ask me anything on these calls i.e., work through a conflict, a trigger, or a sticking point, get my feedback on an interaction, behavioral pattern, or family dynamic, and get support for what is being evoked in you by the relationship.
Bi-weekly “Get out of your head” telegram broadcasts: you can tell me anytime you’re frustrated, anxious, or getting in your head about how to “deal” with your daughter and I'll respond with an in-depth voice message to help you instantly shift out of it. I will offer you guidance on how to understand what she is needing, to see her clearly, while also helping you understand yourself more deeply, to get more in touch with your own needs + feelings, and step into the transformation that is being asked of you.
Community Led Facebook Group: there is something so powerful about having a safe space to share and celebrate your biggest wins and ask for support when you need it. The energy that comes with being in a community like this is EVERYTHING.
This program is designed to strengthen you from the insight out. I am here to pour into you, steady you, and help you see clearly — so you can grow into the mother your daughter needs while also building a deeper relationship with yourself and getting your needs met in life, also.
This is not fluff. The insight you receive is from an attachment-focused depth therapist for the last 15+ years.
I root for you.
I challenge you.
I help you break out of the fog that is sometimes our own “stuff” and get you recentered again in what is most important to you - your daughter. And the relationship you have with her.
This is a community where mothers get to feel supported and empowered to meet their daughters where they are - and grow alongside them.
What if you could avoid the common pitfalls of conflict, see clearly what your daughter is needing, and return, again and again, to what really matters to you - her well-being, her empowerment, and the quality of your relationship (without losing yourself or being perfect).
All while having that support in your pocket?
Hi, I’m Trish.
For the last 15+ years as a therapist, I helped daughters heal from the dynamics of their childhoods while also supporting mothers and daughters rebuild their relationship in real time. I saw clearly all the pitfalls that we as mothers fall into without realizing it. The subtle ways we dismiss her, or don’t see her clearly, or steer her away from her truth.
After spending years helping mothers repair their relationship with their daughters, I became inspired to help mothers from the very beginning.
To support mothers doing their own inner child work and equip them with the essential skills and powerful perspectives that will not only nurture closeness between you, but also build deep resilience in your daughter.
Our daughters will face anxieties and social pressures but having a strong sense of herself and a strong connection with her family will fortify her as she navigates and adapts to life’s new challenges.
It is easy for all of us to fall into unconscious traps that make our daughters feel unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. And it’s so hard to see our own blind spots. It is only natural, after all, for our worries and anxieties to take the lead.
But that’s where I come in.
During your time in Mama Have Mercy, you are going to:
get to the bottom of the attitudes, outbursts, and behaviors that your daughter is currently exhibiting and learn immediately how to start shifting the dynamic.
understand what she is needing from you at all times and be deeply supported while you develop the skills that were never taught, shown, or modeled for you.
get really clear on the kind of relationship you want to have with your daughter and the sh*t that’s getting in the way of you creating exactly that.
have mercy on yourself because I will insist that you do. Yes, we are going to do hard things and feel hard things, but you are also going to start loving yourself and accepting yourself more than you ever have before. Because if you can’t have more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for all sides of yourself - how on earth can you accept and love all sides of her?
stop getting in your effing head when it comes to worrying so much about how she’s going to “turn out” and future tripping about her current behavior.
become way more attuned to yourself, your own needs, limits, feelings, and instincts, and as a result of tapping into your own truth, you will become way more attuned to her.
see your blind spots, your projections, your anxiety, and your propensity to take her behavior personally, so you can start meeting her exactly where she is.
awaken that beautiful heart of yours and free it from the clutches of fear and control, shame and rigidity.
Trust me when I say, you can absolutely:
Have a daughter who loves hanging out with you and her family (rather than holing up in her room).
Still be her first call when something amazing (or hard) happens (like she can’t wait to fill you in on all the tea).
Be included in her most important life decisions and her inner life (so you’re not left wondering how she’s doing).
Have the closeness you always wanted through all phases of her life.
And I want to show you how.